TheI still make New Years Resolutions, sort of. I began in my mid-teens when I realized I was not as pretty, bright, popular etc. as some of the other girls. I saw the new year as a clean slate, as a new beginning-HOPE! We all need hope don’t we? The process worked for a few years as I imagined (key word) I could change myself and therefore my environment.
Eventually I recognized a pattern had developed. Every year my goals were about the same four areas: me physically, finances, organization and relationships. You probably have some areas that recur on your “Things I’d like to change” list too.
Then, for a period in my late twenties/early thirties I didn’t even think about resolutions. Life was difficult and making it through each day successfully was a feat. A lot in life needed changing but not the kind of changes I could make.
It was during these years that a spiritual part of me began to develop. I learned the “Serenity Prayer” which says;
“God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.” Knowing the difference is the critical element. Do you see it? IT’S YOU! The only thing we can change is ourselves..
About six years ago I began to use an approach to setting goals I loosely call “the one word” method. The first three years the word was HEALTH (I was pretty much of a mess when I moved to North Carolina). Then the word SERVICE was added so I focused on restoring my health so I could serve in some capacity and have a purpose. For the last two and a half years it has been GRATITUDE. This year is it STEWARDSHIP.
The neat thing about the one word approach is that every aspect of my life fits, in some way, within the larger concept. If you pay attention, look for clues, listen to your heart, you just might find the word for your new year. Let me know if you do. I’d love to hear about it.